that the respondent has committed adultery and the petitioner finds it intolerable to live with the respondent; … [Emphasis added.] [49] At this stage, it was crucial to understand the concept of ‘tolerance’ in the context of adultery. [50] Tolerating adultery means enduring or accepting its existence without necessarily approving or forgiving it. A spouse who tolerates 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 19 adultery may be aware of the adultery but refrains from taking immediate action for personal, emotional, or practical reasons. For instance, if a spouse remains in the matrimonial home after discovering an adulterous relationship but continues to express dissatisfaction, he or she may have still have tolerated the adultery. [51] On the basis of tolerance, it was imperative to emphasise that allowing an individual to use adultery as grounds for divorce after years of inaction would contradict principles of justice and accountability. [52] While the Law Reform (Marriage and Divorce) Act does not prescribe a time limit, the Singapore’s Women’s Charter 1961, in section 95, stipulates that a spouse cannot seek divorce on grounds of adultery if they continue living with the adulterous spouse for six months or more after discovering the affair. This provision encourages timely decision-making and prevents the ‘weaponising’ of adultery in matrimonial disputes. [53] Unfortunately, the Law Reform (Marriage and Divorce) Act lacks such a limitation, which can lead to prolonged uncertainty, potential manipulation, and complications in legal proceedings due to outdated evidence. Introducing similar provisions would promote prompt action, prevent abuse of process, and enhance legal efficiency. Although no statutory limitation exists under section 58 of the Law Reform (Marriage and Divorce) Act for claims against third parties, the Court cannot condone undue delay by litigants. 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 20 [54] In the present case, the issue was whether the Respondent had tolerated the adultery. In my view, she had, for the following reasons. [55] It was undisputed that the Respondent was aware of the Petitioner’s adulterous relationship with the Party-Cited since 2018 but continued to cohabit with the Petitioner and conduct herself as his wife. [56] In my view, there was no doubt that the Respondent’s actions amounted to tolerance of the adulterous relationship between the Petitioner and Party-Cited. Despite claiming to have discovered the adulterous relationship between the Petitioner and Party-Cited, the Respondent continued living with the Petitioner, and engaged in marital relations as part of her conjugal obligations. [57] I must also address the various allegations made by the Respondent concerning the Petitioner’s purported relationships with women other than the Party-Cited, known in this judgment as TY, JC and SF, all between 2015 and 2018. Upon careful consideration of the evidence, I found that these allegations were not proved. The Respondent failed to produce credible or corroborative evidence to substantiate the claims of adultery or improper conduct involving the Petitioner and other women. [58] Even if I were to assume, for the sake of argument, that I was wrong on the issue of proof and that some of these extramarital relationships may have occurred, the overall context is telling. [59] The evidence revealed that the Respondent had long been aware of these alleged relationships. She did not confront them at the time 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 21 nor take any meaningful steps to address or object to them. On the contrary, she appeared to have tolerated the situation and continued cohabiting with the Petitioner. Such tolerance, whether out of convenience, indifference, or personal choice, may not be uncommon in the realities of marital life. However, a party who knowingly accepts or overlooks such conduct for an extended period cannot later come to court and claim that the same conduct was the root cause of the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. [60] To do so would be disingenuous and inconsistent with the Respondent’s own prior conduct. In the absence of timely objection or genuine distress at the time these events allegedly occurred, I could not allow the Respondent to weaponise those past events as justification for the present breakdown of the marital relationship. [61] The Court is entitled to look at the conduct of the Parties in its entirety and assess the credibility and fairness of such claims. On this score, the Respondent’s case fell short. Whether Respondent’s application seeking to compel Petitioner and the Child to undergo a DNA test should be allowed [62] A subsequent ruling that I had to make was whether the Petitioner and Child should have been compelled to undertake a DNA test to determine if he was the father of the Child. This was based on an application filed by the Respondent in enclosure 97 (“Enclosure 97”). [63] After hearing submissions of Counsel, I dismissed the Respondent’s application for the following reasons. [64] First and foremost, Enclosure 97 was made very late in the day. 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 22 [65] It was crucial to highlight, as explained in Charles Koo Ho-Tung & Ors v. Koo Lin Shen & Ors [2016] 2 CLJ 267, that delay is a key factor in the determination of an application filed by any litigant. Unreasonable delay may undermine the efficiency of legal proceedings, prejudice the opposing party, and go against the overarching objective of ensuring that justice is delivered without undue obstruction. [66] In this context, observations made by Gopal Sri Ram JCA (as he then was) in Khor Cheng Wah v. Sungai Way Leasing Sdn Bhd [1997] 1 CLJ 396; [1996] 1 MLJ 223, are particularly pertinent, especially concerning the general principle of delay in legal proceedings, as highlighted in the following passages: It is a cardinal principle of law, that when a litigant seeks the intervention of the court in a matter that affects his rights, he must do so timeously. The maxim vigilantibus, non dormientibus, jura subveniunt, though having its origins in the Court of Chancery, is of universal application. Even in cases where a right is exercisable ex debito justitiae, a court may refuse relief to an indolent litigant. In all cases in which delay in approaching the court is in issue, the burden is upon the litigant who has delayed to render a satisfactory explanation for it. [Emphasis added.] [67] The case of Khor Cheng Wah v. Sungai Way Leasing Sdn Bhd underscores the principle that courts must balance the need for thorough adjudication with the imperative of maintaining procedural efficiency. Delay, if unjustified, can lead to dismissal of an application, especially when it disrupts the natural progression of a case or imposes unnecessary burden on the opposing party. 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 23 [68] In the present case, the Petitioner filed the Divorce Petition in December 2021, while the Respondent filed her Reply in February 2022, subsequently amending it in February 2023. In June 2023, the Respondent applied to join the Co-Respondent as a party to the proceedings. However, it was only in January 2025 that the Respondent filed Enclosure 97. [69] When questioned about the delay in filing Enclosure 97, Counsel for the Respondent explained that he had initially wanted to observe whether the Petitioner would admit to the adulterous relationship with the Party-Cited. As the Petitioner continued to deny the allegation throughout cross-examination, the Respondent only then proceeded with filing Enclosure 97. [70] I found the explanation wholly unpersuasive. The Respondent was already in possession of the relevant information concerning the Party-Cited, including the fact that the Child had been born during the period of the alleged adulterous relationship. To file the application in Enclosure 97 at such a late stage was, in my view, inequitable, an unnecessary use of judicial resources, and a burden on the Court. [71] Even on the merits, I dismissed the application in Enclosure 97 for several compelling reasons. It was undisputed that the sole purpose for which the Respondent sought the DNA test was to establish that the Petitioner had committed adultery with the Party-Cited. The Respondent’s theory was that, by proving the Petitioner to be the biological father of the Child, she could indirectly establish the existence of an adulterous relationship between him and the Party-Cited. 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 24 [72] In this regard, I was guided by the pronouncement of the Federal Court in MPPL v CAS [2024] 4 MLJ 524, where it was made clear that ordering a paternity test, particularly a forced one, is an extreme measure which intrudes into the child’s personal autonomy. Such a measure ought not to be taken lightly, particularly where the child does not seek to determine her paternity. The Federal Court has emphasised that, even where the Court possesses the jurisdiction to order such a test, it should be directed only in rare and compelling circumstances, and only where it is necessary for the welfare of the child. [73] In the present case, it was evident and beyond dispute that the application for a DNA test bore no genuine connection to the welfare or best interests of the Child. Rather, it served solely to advance the Respondent’s own personal agenda. The Court could not ignore that such an application, when divorced from any consideration of the Child’s well-being, risked undermining the very principles that underpin its discretionary powers in ordering such intrusive measures. [74] Further support may be found in the Indian Supreme Court case of Aparna Ajinkya Firodia v. Ajinkya Arun Firodia [2023] SCC OnLine SC 161. That case similarly involved allegations of infidelity, and the issue arose as to whether a DNA test could be ordered to establish adultery. While the High Court, in that case, had initially granted liberty to the mother to either comply with the DNA testing order or face an adverse inference, the Supreme Court overturned that view. It held that a DNA test cannot be compelled solely to prove adultery, and no adverse inference could be drawn against a party who refused to subject a child to such a test. 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 25 [75] Taken together, these authorities underscore a fundamental principle, that is, that a child's bodily autonomy and right to privacy cannot be compromised simply to support a claim of infidelity in matrimonial litigation. The Respondent’s application in enclosure 97, being grounded in precisely such an objective, was, therefore, dismissed. Unreasonable behaviour Whether Respondent had established unreasonable behaviour on part of the Petitioner [76] The Respondent also levelled a series of accusations against the Petitioner, alleging that he was irresponsible, engaged in habitual gambling, excessive drinking, womanising, and generally neglected his duties as a spouse. [77] However, these allegations were made in sweeping and general terms, without any specific particulars or supporting evidence. The Respondent did not provide any credible documentation, witnesses, or independent corroboration to substantiate these claims. The assertions were vague and appeared to be more in the nature of bare allegations rather than facts supported by proof. [78] It is a well-established principle that the burden of proof lies with the party making the allegation. In this case, it was incumbent upon the Respondent to produce cogent and reliable evidence to support these serious claims. She had failed to do so. The allegations, standing on their own without substantiation, did not reach the threshold required in civil proceedings. They lacked the necessary weight and specificity for the Court to give them any meaningful consideration. In the absence of proof, these accusations are no 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 26 more than unproved assertions, and I am unable to attach any evidentiary value to them [79] In any event, despite her claims of the Petitioner’s alleged misconduct, the Respondent continued to reside with him for a considerable period after the alleged behaviour took place. There was no evidence to suggest that she found the Petitioner’s conduct so intolerable that cohabitation became impossible. On the contrary, it was the Petitioner who eventually left the matrimonial home and filed for divorce. This conduct was inconsistent with the assertion that the marriage had broken down irretrievably due to the Petitioner’s unreasonable behaviour. It indicated that, whatever the alleged grievances, the Respondent was still willing and able to continue the marital relationship up until the point the Petitioner chose to exit. [80] Accordingly, even if the Petitioner had exhibited a laid-back or irresponsible attitude, such conduct on its own could not form the basis for the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. [81] As such, I found that the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage could not be attributed to the Petitioner, as the Respondent had failed to establish such proof. The remaining question, therefore, was whether the Respondent had satisfied the Court on the application of the ‘means and needs’ test. Whether Respondent had fulfilled the “means and needs” test [82] The Respondent had unequivocally stated that she had been solely responsible for the financial upkeep of the family throughout the marriage. According to her own evidence, the household’s income 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 27 was generated entirely through her businesses, which she had incorporated and managed independently. She further maintained that the Petitioner had not, at any point, made any financial contribution towards her personal needs or the welfare of the children. In fact, her account consistently portrayed the Petitioner as financially dependent on her, rather than the other way around. [83] Given this narrative, it would be inherently contradictory for the Respondent to now seek spousal maintenance from the very person she claimed had not contributed to the family’s financial wellbeing. Spousal maintenance is typically grounded in the notion that one party is in need of support and the other has the means and, to some extent, the responsibility to provide it. That basis simply does not exist in this case. The Respondent cannot, on one hand, assert her financial independence and the Petitioner's lack of contribution, and on the other, claim entitlement to maintenance. Such a position lacks both legal and factual coherence. [84] As such, the Respondent’s claim for spousal maintenance was dismissed. Guardianship; custody, care and control; child maintenance – Whether Petitioner was obligated to pay child maintenance [85] Although the Petitioner had no obligation to provide spousal maintenance to the Respondent, he was legally required to pay child maintenance. This duty is well-established under sections 92 and 93 of the Law Reform (Marriage & Divorce) Act, which clearly outline a parent's responsibility to support their child. The provisions read: 16 August 2025 …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 28 Section 92 - Duty to maintain children Except where an agreement or order of court otherwise provides, it shall be the duty of a parent to maintain or contribute to the maintenance of his or her children, whether they are in his or her custody or the custody of any other person, either by providing them with such accommodation, clothing, food and education as may be reasonable having regard to his or her means and station in life or by paying the cost thereof. ….. Section 93 - Power for court to order maintenance for children